TOO MUCH CLUTTER OVERHEAD
(Part 1 of 2) Series #3
Jack, who is a very successful CPA, had recently undergone a very
painful divorce . Although his business was still prospering, his mood
and hopes for the future for his personal life were less than sanguine.
The divorce settlement awarded his former wife their present commodious
and well appointed residence and the position of custodial parent of
their children, ages 7,12 and 14.
With less than an eager heart Jack
snagged a condo near the town's business section so that he could live
near his children for bi-monthly visits and still be within minutes of
his accounting firm's office.
Jack's sister who lived just a few miles
away supplied him with basic furniture from her cellar, attic, and a
local outlet. Dozens of boxes of clothing, baseball cards, sports
trophies, books, and momentos that documented his 41 year existence
stayed mainly unpacked and filled most of what was meant to be a second
or child's bedroom.
Needless to say the bi-monthly kids' visits were
not thoroughly successful after the children started yearning for
comfort instead of camping out on a sofa bed in his living room.
Jack's
sister contacted me and arranged for us to have a preliminary meeting at
his place of business.
In an almost dustless wood paneled and Oriental
rugged office I explained while his sister cajoled until he consented to
a feng shui consultation in his new digs.
Armed with my portfolio, pads and bagua map for Jack I arrived promptly
at the appointed hour. Jack cleared some mostly empty pizza boxes from
the sofa, and placed them jauntily on top of an old armor so that I
could be seated as I avoided stepping on empty beverage cans.
As I took
in this room I thought that this would be either the easiest or most
difficult consulting job I would ever attempt.
My first impulse was to
call 911, then to get a big fire hose, and then to find some huge
garbage cans. Since this clutter first aid was not really why I was
there, I simply recalled Jack's extenuating circumstances, the fact that
he did maintain a very tidy business office, and that he really wanted
to maintain a good relationship with his children.
I recounted how Feng
Shui can be of help, and reviewed the baqua areas as they relate to each
room as well as the entire living space.
In an interview designed
specifically for Jack, I asked him to name and rate his immediate
priorities and relate them to them Baqua areas.
He also listed three
long term goals. Since Jack is a Cancerian, it came as no surprise that
his top immediate priority head and shoulders above all others was the
health and welfare and his successful relationship with his children and
the rest of his family.
Next in line were career and financial
successes.
His top long term goal was to help people in need...those in
the category who don't earn enough money to even pay taxes. It became
obvious that I was dealing with an intelligent and caring gentleman of
high moral character, whose unsuccessful marriage cast him out into a an
unfamiliar lifestyle that left him confused and possibly depressed.
At
the interview both he and his sister shared the pride that was appointed
by the beauty of comfort of his former home. Was this grime,sleeze, and
disarray a reaction to being cast out? What self respecting natal
Cancerian would live this way? As I we went over the interview sheets
I found it more and more difficult to breathe much less think in a
cogent manner. The pizza boxes overhead on the armor seemed to be
poised to fall on my head. The Chi in this room was so blocked that
the atmosphere seemed all but suffocating.
It was at this point that
I interrupted Jack's account of his eldest daughter's climb to first
place in her horse show category, and announced that it would not be
productive to go any further until he;
1) got rid of the trash and
stopped saving it, and
2) unpacked, stored, gave away, or pitched those
belongings still lurking in cartons that filled one entire room.
I
offered that I would return a small visitation fee, and acknowledge his
seriousness of intent if he would call me in two weeks with a message
that this work was done. At that time we could make an
appointment for me to continue my work. He said that he understood
those conditions , but made no promises that he would meet them
especially in the time required.